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Don't Let Emotional Investing Control Your Wealth

By Michael Nedreski

As a human being, you know that emotions can be strong and intense, and that our finances often trigger powerful feelings. It can be challenging to separate emotions from money because our financial habits are deeply rooted in childhood experiences. For example, someone who knows they should save may struggle to break a spending habit because it brings them comfort, even though it undermines their savings goals.

Our emotions undeniably influence our financial choices. (1) Let's explore how these habits form and how we can reshape them to make more objective, emotion-free decisions about money.

The Money Script

Do you sometimes feel like the discipline to make rational and well-thought-out financial decisions must be too good to be true? Because no matter how hard you try, you just can't seem to stick to it? Well, I am sure there are others that feel the same way. These feelings are not uncommon and are most likely due to the emotional and psychological baggage we all carry around relating to our money, otherwise known as our money scripts. And, as with most of the baggage we've lugged into our adult lives, these scripts usually start forming at a very young age. 

Even though we may not be aware of it, we spend our childhood picking up on how our parents and other significant role models relate to and handle money, and over time, our brains are subconsciously trained to respond in similar ways. If your parents were confident in their ability to make wise investments, you will likely face investing with confidence as well. Contrarily, if you experienced your parents scrounging to get by and often quarreling over expenses, you may experience some pretty strong feelings of guilt when making certain purchases. 

The seeds of money scripts are planted in childhood, watered by observation, and eventually grow to influence your emotional beliefs about finances as an adult. For this reason, it is vital to be intentional and diligent in talking to your kids about money and modeling healthy financial behaviors. It is just as important to take the time to examine yourself and understand your money scripts and how they influence your financial behavior so you can avoid any costly mistakes. 

The Negative Side of Money Scripts

To be fair, not all money scripts are bad. Some behaviors we learn plant seeds for beneficial emotions about finances. However, other behaviors, such as money avoidance, focus on financial status, or the idolization and even worship of money, can be flat-out detrimental. Unhealthy emotions and belief patterns can lead to all kinds of financial problems, such as financial infidelity, compulsive buying, pathological gambling, and financial dependence. Certain money scripts have been tied to lower levels of net worth, lower income, and higher amounts of revolving credit. 

Those may sound extreme, but have you ever let panic during a market downturn take your focus off of your long-term investing plan? Have you ever been unable to make a decision because you were paralyzed with worry and anxiety about the future? Have you ever wreaked havoc on your budget for the momentary high of acquiring something you really wanted? All of these behaviors stem from your personal money script.

Money Scripts Can Be Changed

We often think that if we had more money, we wouldn't have any problems. But we have money problems because of how we approach money, not necessarily because we don't have enough. This is good news! We might not be able to drastically increase our income, but we can learn to control our attitudes and perceptions. Our money scripts may be ingrained from childhood, but they are not permanent. With a focused and concerted effort, they can be changed. 

The first step you must take in overcoming your money scripts is to identify them. To do this, you must become aware of your emotional responses to common financial situations. Begin to stop and notice your emotional responses to these common experiences:

• Earning money
• Buying things
• Saving for the future
• Budgeting and tracking expenses
• Making financial decisions
• Volatile markets
• Healthy markets
• Meeting with a financial professional
• Thinking about your financial future

How do these things make you feel? Anything that elicits strong emotions warrants further reflection. Keep in mind that negative emotions are not the only ones that can harm your financial life. Some positive emotions, like optimism and self-confidence, can bring about negative results if unwarranted and left unchecked.

How to Manage Emotional Money Decisions

The key to changing your money scripts and developing healthier money habits is learning to control your emotions. You can also build some new, healthy habits that protect you financially and incorporate them into your life. Habits and disciplines such as taking advantage of automatic savings, investing through your bank or employer's retirement plan, scheduling regular family budget meetings, and enlisting the help of someone reliable to keep you accountable are great places to start. Eventually, you will learn how you respond to emotional triggers and you can then take steps, like mandating a "cooling off" period for yourself, before making any decisions. 

Finally, you need to be willing to forgive yourself when you make mistakes. Leave the past in the past and move forward with the new knowledge you have gained. Choosing to forgive yourself for past mistakes frees you up to be more effective with your new tools. As you begin to collect victories, both big and small, you will likely find it even easier to extend forgiveness.  

Your Financial Ally

Choosing a financial planner is a big decision, and it's essential that you feel confident and at ease with your advisor. Financial planning is a continuous journey, and you need a guide every step of the way. 

If you're ready to explore how we can work together, contact us by calling 814-835-4551 or emailing MICHAEL.NEDRESKI@LPL.COM.

Let's find out if I'm the right fit to support you on your financial path.

About Michael

Michael Nedreski is managing partner at White Oak Wealth Partners, a specialized financial lifestyle and wealth management firm serving entrepreneurs, business owners, executives, and their families. Mike has 30-plus years of experience in the financial services industry and is committed to serving his clients through holistic financial planning, disciplined investment strategies, and proactive personal service. 

A native of Erie, Pennsylvania, Mike began his career in the financial services industry in 1988. He has earned the Chartered Retirement Planning CounselorSM (CRPC®) designation conferred by College for Financial Planning (188-LPL). Mike is also an active member of the Financial Services Institute (FSI) and Financial Planning Association (FPA).

When not working, Mike enjoys spending time with his wife, Amy, and their children. He volunteers in his community and at his church and his children's schools. An outdoors enthusiast, Mike loves hunting, fishing, golfing, and spending time near or on the water. He also enjoys working out and watching some of his favorite sports teams, the Pittsburgh Pirates and the Cleveland Browns. To learn more about Michael, connect with him on LinkedIn.

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(1) City National Bank, 2024